“We have more possibilities available in each moment than we realize.” – Thich Nhat Hanh
Life presents us with a seemingly endless array of possibilities every day. From the opportunity to meet new people, to buy new things, to enter into new relationships, to travel to new places, to try new things, to accept new job opportunities, and to learn new things, every day we get the chance to openly accept, or reject, any of a number of new possibilities into our lives.
Opening up to any one of those possibilities can sound inviting, even exciting. Yet they can also feel quite daunting and scary. Opening up to those possibilities usually means a release of control. A deviation from the safety and security of the norm. It is, often times, a matter of trust as well. And it can also require a rather large leap of faith on your part.
So many doubts. So many fears. So many questions. How do you know which are the “right” possibilities to be open to? How do you know if it is the “right time”? What if you choose “the wrong one”? What if it “turns out just like last time”? It can become an endless dialog in your mind…one that can paralyze you and render you incapable of opening up to any of the amazing possibilities that come your way.
It’s a balance…a dance. Trying to be open to the possibilities that life presents you with, yet trying also to be mindful to choose things that will best serve you. And unfortunately there is no one system, procedure, or formula to help you make these decisions. It’s different for each of us.
But consider these thoughts…perhaps in them you can find some helpful guidance and thus allow yourself to be open to the possibilities before you:
- Know yourself, trust yourself, and follow your heart – always be true to yourself and honor what you need
- Don’t over think it or second guess yourself – sometimes you know the answer…even if you can’t explain how or why you know
- Let go of the attachment to any one outcome or expectation – only pain and suffering come from attachments to expectations and outcomes
- Know there is a lesson in everything so there is no wrong choice – regardless of the choice you make, you will learn what you need to from the situation
- Face your fear, knowing that the worst that can happen is you learn a valuable lesson – release your fear as it is irrational and will only serve to prevent you from learning, growing, and experiencing life
I speak all these things from personal experience, both past and present. There may be joy and there may be pain. There may be laughter and there may be tears. But there will always also be valuable lessons to help you grow and become a better person – never lose sight of the importance and value of that.
Dare greatly and take a chance. Be open to the possibilities life sets before you. They may not be what you were expecting. They may not even be what you had hoped for. And they may not come at a “convenient time”. But they are what you need in that moment for one reason or another – trust in that and stay open all the amazing possibilities that come your way.