So I took a few weeks off from writing my blog. I just decided I had too much going on and something had to give. I also didn’t want to quickly write a blog post simply so I could say I published something every week like I have up to this point. Instead I spent a few weekends, when I would otherwise do my blog writing, enjoying uninterrupted time with friends and family. I set a boundary for myself and stuck to it. It was some much needed recharging time for me. But it was interesting how guilty I felt doing it. That little ego voice in my head was quick to tell me I was a slacker and that if I were any good at organizing my time I could have gotten it done. But you know what? I stuck to my decision despite that voice and I learned some valuable lessons along the way too – lessons that have been recurring for me quite a bit over these past few months…
Lesson #1 – Let go of the need for perfection. This is a really tough one for me. I swear perfectionism in actually hard wired into my DNA. But I am gradually learning that it really is okay to deviate from any plan you originally set for yourself. In fact, if you allow for a little variation it can even result in creativity and growth opportunities. A few lessons on the periphery of this one are forgiveness and acceptance.
Lesson #2 – Take things in stride and don’t let them bother you so much. Easier said than done, no? But that’s the goal. That’s what we should work towards, right?. Relax, breathe, and take one step at a time. Things are seldom as bad as they initially appear. Often we just need to take a little time to put them into the proper perspective. The related lessons here are open-mindedness and flexibility.
Lesson #3 – Accept the interruptions of life…enjoy them and learn from them. Life is a never-ending journey filled with sharp curves, road blocks, and lots of construction. Whether you like it or not, it is going to be that way, so why not just sit back and enjoy the ride. Subsequent, related lessons here include patience and being present.
I have heard it said that the universe continues to send things our way until we have learned the lesson intended for us. I certainly can say from my own experience that is true, at times painfully so. My desire for perfection and to maintain whatever standard I set for myself is often so rigid that I create quite a bit of suffering for myself – all of which is easily remedied when I step back, breathe, accept the present moment as an opportunity to learn & grow, and then simply let it all go.
What’s your area of growth opportunity? What lesson is the universe still helping you to learn? These are powerful reflection points, so don’t overlook the importance of spending some time pondering them. Embrace the lessons coming to you.
“We repeat what we don’t repair.” – Christine Langley-Obaugh