Celebrate The Good And The Bad

Four years ago today my life changed in a way I could never have imagined or foreseen. And it was certainly not in a way I would have ever wished for, but the end result so far has been, surprisingly, quite amazing. I would never have guessed it could go from what felt like the end of the world as I knew it to the most amazing time of my life.  It has truly been a radical transformation.

In the blink of an eye, it seems, I went from being married to someone I considered my best friend and partner for life to being single and uncertain of what the future had in store. It was a painful and confusing time to say the least. But after a few years of deep reflection, soul searching if you will, and dedicated time spent working on myself and figuring out what truly makes me happy, I reconnected with parts of myself I had lost touch with over the years…parts of myself I really liked and which held great meaning for me.  So I began doing things that allowed me to stay in those places and be that person again.  So freeing, so energizing, and so empowering.  And now I am doing things I am not even sure I could/would have even imagined for myself before.  I am playing bigger than I ever have, embracing the opportunities life sends my way, working hard to make a positive difference in the lives of others and the world as a whole.  I have never been happier or more focused, nor have I ever experienced as much success as I am right now.  It has definitely been a transformational couple of years for me.

Isn’t it funny (not in a humorous way but rather in an interesting and curious way) how life can throw things your way that feel and seem just absolutely awful and insurmountable? Like you will never recover? Like things will never be the same again?  Like you will never be happy, or successful, or (fill in the blank) ever again?  And yet, in all the cases I have ever seen in my life, things that have happened both to me personally and to people I know or have encountered in my life, better things always seem to come.  It’s as if the universe is saying to us that difficult change, while it can be temporarily devastating, can actually be good for us.  One might even argue it is a necessary part of life.

I’ll use a butterfly as an analogy. Caterpillars change into a beautiful butterfly through an amazing metamorphosis process we all learn about in elementary school. They wrap themselves in a cocoon and begin a massive transformation.  When that transformation is complete they are radically different from their initial form…they have become beautiful, colorful creatures.  Clearly, their transformation is not easy, but the end result is absolutely amazing to behold…a new life having been born.

What I have seen and experienced is that, despite how awful it can feel on the onset and even as you trudge through it, major changes in our lives are what seem to help get us on the path we are suppose to be on in the first place. Could it be the universe dealing us the hand we need to have in order to fulfill our greater purpose? That’s certainly one explanation for it.  Of course, when dealt that hand we have to play it or nothing can ever possibly come of it…but if we choose to play that hand, again despite how hard it can be at times, amazing things can, and in my experience do, happen.

We all experience challenges in our lives, but if we embrace those times as opportunities to bring something even better into our lives we open ourselves up to amazing transformation. Our view or perspective of those challenges makes all the difference. If we get caught up in the negative side of the things that happen to us, that cause major change in our lives, we will miss out on the opportunity that has been provided to us to make something great out of a negative or unpleasant situation. So celebrate both the good and the bad, the blessings and the challenges, in your life – they all serve a purpose, designed to help us live the best life we can.  You just might be amazed at the outcome!

“I dwell in possibility.” – Emily Dickinson