“Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have – life itself.” – Walter Anderson
We all experience things in our lives that we would label as bad, unwanted, negative, difficult, painful, or even devastating. Whether it is a tragic death, loss of a job or a house, divorce, a mental health condition, major health concerns…whether it happens to us personally or to someone in our immediate family…we have all been there. These are not small things. These are things that rock our world, that derail the train we call our life. They are the kinds of things that can totally reshape who we are as a person and how we live our lives.
As Walter Anderson’s quote reminds us, it is all about how we respond to those difficult events as they happen in our lives. We can chose to allow those events to suck us into a black hole of victimization, depression, or anger…or we can choose to release those things, see it as an opportunity to grow and expand, and use it as a launching pad for a better life. We all feel a wide variety of emotions as we work through these events in our lives, but this choice comes at some point, after we have had some time to work through our feelings and to heal. We all go through it at a different rate, but it is important to not get stuck in the feelings and to move on to healing and releasing, at some point. Hard as it can be to imagine when you are in the thick of it, those awful events can be transformed into incredible gifts depending on how we choose to respond to them.
I know from my own experience, going through a divorce opened up the door for the life I was meant to live. It set me on the path to become the person I was always meant to be…to help others…to write and create…to be happy and enjoy everything about life…to see the world through the eyes of love rather than negativity, bitterness, or anger…to no longer be caught up in the day-to-day drudgery of life in this modern world. It was difficult and I would not have elected to go through it of my own accord, but what a gift it has been to get to live my life free from all the negative and limiting aspects that had come to be in my life prior! What an amazing gift wrapped in the kind of package I would not have chosen to open on my own!
There’s a lesson and a gift in everything that happens to us in life. We may not see it at first, but we will in time. So relax, let go, breathe it in, grow and expand…live your life to the fullest with a positive and grateful mindset, because life itself is truly a gift!