I don’t know about you, but I spend entirely too much time in my own head. I’m pretty sure that I have become a professional in the realm of overthinking and analyzing things. If it were a job I would certainly be the guru! At the very least I must be the poster child for it, right?!
In all seriousness though, I do get caught up in my mind analyzing things to death. I can’t say that I can pinpoint one reason why this is the case…but clearly it is a skill I have developed over a long period of time…most likely my entire life. Maybe it even served a proper purpose in my life at one time. But regardless, I haven’t been able to identify a particular reason as to why I fall into it so often or so easily. I suppose the reason doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things – what really matters is that I find a way to let go of this habit that does not serve me.
And I have to say, I am slowly learning to let go, though it is certainly an ongoing battle. Being in my head is such a natural state, such a habit, that I just go there, not even realizing it most times. But I am focusing on becoming more aware when I go to that place…in my mind…where analysis and overthinking rule. Being aware of when it happens is a huge step toward overcoming any habit. Once I can recognize I am doing it I have the ability to choose whether I continue it or whether I stop it. This is a major realization…but one that needs to be exercised with a healthy dose of self-love and self-care. We can’t get caught up in “how long” it took us to realize we were in that place…that doesn’t matter. What matters is that we did become aware of the fact that we went there…over time that awareness comes sooner. Be proud of yourself for working on that awareness, don’t beat yourself up because of the timing. Awareness is the first, and arguably the hardest, step.
And so we become more aware and begin exercising our ability to stop being in that place of analysis and overthinking. But now what? Surely there is another thing we should be doing, right? I mean, we have to make decisions and if we aren’t going to analyze or “think through things thoroughly” in order to make those decisions, how on earth will we ever be able to make any decisions?! (Yep, I have this conversation in my head too…it is amazing what lengths our mind (or ego, or internal voice, or whatever you choose to call that thing inside you that wreaks havoc on your life and your ability to live in harmony with yourself) will go to in an effort to derail your progress). Don’t get caught up in this vicious, cyclical conversation in your own mind. Choose spontaneity, creativity, and letting go. In the grand scheme of life, the chances are pretty good that the things we spend our time overthinking and analyzing to death are not going to result in the end of the world…not even the end of our own world as we know it. Choose to do what feels good to you and your soul without getting caught up in the “shoulda, coulda, woulda” scenarios.
I love this quote by Bruce Lee, as I think it is an appropriate reminder to us all – “If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you’ll never get it done.” Take a deep breath and embrace the beauty of the mess that life is and then live it!