One of the most profound lessons I have learned in recent years is that all the limiting beliefs I grew up living, knowing, understanding, and believing to be true don’t have to be my reality forever. Those learned truths may have been true in the house in which I grew up, in my school, in my circle of friends, in the general society that surrounded me at the time, but they may not be true for me any longer. They may have served me well at one time or another, but there can come a time when that is no longer the case. Circumstances change, people change, time moves on…and so do the truths by which we live our lives.
The struggle comes in the fact that we were conditioned to believe that those learned truths are universal truths. Furthermore, to no longer believe them is flat-out wrong. And so we must embark on a journey of unlearning those truths that no longer serve us and are no longer true for us. We literally have to reprogram ourselves from what we learned earlier in life…something far easier said than done.
So how am I doing it? Well, to be sure it is an ongoing struggle. That ego voice of mine tries hard to sneak those learned truths back in at every turn…and if I question it, that same ego voice tries to convince me I am wrong to question the truths of my childhood and younger years – How dare I question the limiting beliefs I have been provided by this world surrounding my role in a relationship, in a career, in society as a whole. Who am I to question the advice of so many about learning to settle and accept whatever you can get out of life? Where do I get off challenging what is “okay” and “acceptable”? Indeed, that ego voice can resort to some pretty rough tactics in an effort to get me to go back to those learned truths…that comfort zone we have known and lived in for so very long.
But through continual practice, and the occasional help from my life coach, I am finding ways to break free from the limiting thinking deeply embedded in my psyche. I have begun to ask myself “who says that is right, correct or true?” Is this something I learned and believe to be true as a result of being taught it or is it really a universal truth? For the record, 99% of the time the answer has been that it is a learned truth. And so I challenge myself to think outside of that box I was placed in by all that society has taught me over the years. And while I can’t necessarily say I have come to all new answers, I am continuing to wrestle with it…no longer accepting what I have always believed to be the only answer. Progress.
Final thoughts – I am a big fan of Danielle LaPorte’s work, especially her Truthbombs. One of my favorites is “Conclusions are lethal.” Too often we accept things we are taught/told as conclusions, facts, the truth, etc. when in reality they may not be for us. Be brave…be bold…challenge the thoughts that are embedded in your mind that don’t resonate with you any longer and then set out to find your new truth. There’s nothing right or wrong about listening to your heart and soul and living out your own personal truth. You have permission to reprogram yourself.