The Mask

“The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are. You trade in your reality for a role. You give up your ability to feel, and in exchange, put on a mask.” – Jim Morrison

There is no freedom like that of being yourself fully and completely – being able to live a life that feels good and right to you…expressing yourself in a way that feels authentic…being true to yourself in all aspects of your life. Yet, how often do we prevent ourselves from experiencing that sense of freedom? How easily do we fall in line with the roles and rules society has handed us, and in doing so lose touch with our true nature? How often do we hide who we really are from the world because our authentic self doesn’t quite conform to the norm? If we are being honest with ourselves, we know the answers to these questions, for most of us at least, are often and easily.

Consider for a moment how you feel when you make the choice to do what others do when it doesn’t ring true to you, or how you feel being confined to the roles and rules given to you by society. How does it feel to put on that mask and go through the motions of daily life in the way society says you should but not in a way that resonates with you? For most of us it can be stifling, frustrating, and/or disheartening. Given this reality, is it any surprise that so many people in today’s world openly talk about their ongoing search for happiness. So many are unhappy, frustrated, and searching for a better way.

And the reality is that so often we prevent ourselves from finding true, lasting happiness by being what we are not…by putting on a mask as Jim Morrison said. There’s no doubt that we are our own worst enemy in this respect. We get so wrapped up in what others think, in how we will appear or come off, in the need to conform and fit in. We compare ourselves with others, thinking we must do what others do in order to be like them, fit in like them, and/or get what they have.

NOT true…we shouldn’t compare ourselves to others because we each have our own path. Different things work for different people, so comparison is such an unfair thing to do to ourselves. Have more compassion for yourself and compare yourself only to the person you were yesterday (not to other people). We need to break free from the need/desire to get approval from and/or be like others. It would be far better to learn how to be ourselves…and feel comfortable while doing it. We each have unique gifts to give to the world and we shouldn’t rob the world of what we have to offer by changing who we are to fit into what society says we should be. Besides, you will feel amazing when you surrender yourself to your true self…when you honor who you authentically are and share it with the world. You just might find the happiness for which you have always been looking all along.

Be yourself; everyone else is already taken. – Oscar Wilde